The uncomfortable reality for a lot of couples going through a divorce is that it’s not economically feasible (and maybe strategically unwise) for one party to move out until the divorce is either final or close to being final.
So, how do you protect your privacy from your spouse in that kind of situation? Here are some suggestions:
Set clear boundaries
There’s no avoiding this conversation. Clearly communicate your need for privacy and establish new boundaries about things like your mail, your cellphone, your laptop, your desk and other personal objects or spaces.
Establish physical privacy
Speaking about personal space – you need to create some. Moving into the spare room is a start, but you should consider putting a lock on the door so you can safely secure private documents, personal belongings, financial records and electronics from unwanted intrusions.
Don’t forget the digital issues
Change your passwords on every online account you have, including shopping sites and social media – and make sure they are not something your spouse can guess. Set up facial recognition software and two-factor identification procedures on your online accounts. Add facial recognition or fingerprint locks to your electronics.
Get a second mailing address
You may have a lot of sensitive information coming to you via mail, including legal communications and financial documents. Don’t let those come to the house you share. Have them routed to a relative, a friend, your work or a Post Office box, instead.
If you’re approaching a divorce, it pays to think ahead – and it pays to learn as much as you can about the process ahead, including how to protect your interests.
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