Some Washington couples come to realize that divorce is their only option. However, this can be difficult when you have children; older kids often take such news particularly hard. These are tips on telling your teen that your marriage is coming to an end.
Time it right
When breaking the news of your divorce to your teen, it’s crucial to pick the right time to do so. Make sure your child doesn’t have anything planned for that day such as a test, sports event or party. Choosing the right time gives them time to process the news and go through their emotions.
Tell them together
Both you and your spouse should be there to tell your teen about your impending divorce. This way, it might help to soften the blow. Give them plenty of love and assure them that you will both be there to support them no matter what and how they take the news.
Explain why it’s happening
Be honest and explain to your child why you are getting a divorce. You don’t have to be blunt and give every detail, but teens are perceptive and know when you’re lying to them. Depending on the reason, they might become angry or sad, but it’s normal and even healthy for them to experience a slew of emotions when your family dynamic is shifting.
Avoid the blame game
While telling your teen about the divorce, be compassionate and avoid blaming your spouse. Even if your split is because you learned they had an affair, your child doesn’t need to be in the middle of such drama. Keep your anger toward your spouse in check when talking with your teen.
Deciding to divorce is never easy. However, it’s sometimes necessary; telling your teen can be challenging, but being straightforward and sympathetic can help.
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