The holidays are a busy time for most families. The challenges of the season can increase when parents aren’t in a relationship any longer. Dealing with holiday-related schedules and needs when you’re co-parenting doesn’t have to be as hard as you may think.
One of the most important things to remember is that it’s usually better to avoid waiting until the last minute to figure out things related to holidays. Before it gets too close to the start of the busy season, you should review the parenting plan to determine the terms that govern the current year.
Be realistic about the schedule
The parenting time schedule is likely set in the parenting plan; however, you should be realistic about what to expect. Certain events may lead to one or both parents having to ask for adjustments. Before deciding what to do, think about what’s best for the children and base your decision on that.
Start traditions everyone enjoys
It’s easy to fall into thinking that holidays should look the same as they did when you were with the other parent, but that’s not the case. Instead, you can find new traditions that you and the children enjoy. This often helps the kids to adjust to the split because they know they’ll still get to do things they enjoy.
There might be some holiday events that require you and your ex, and possibly other family members and friends, to be together. Be sure to handle these times calmly and responsibly so the children can enjoy the holiday festivities. You may consider putting terms, such as acceptable behavior at joint events, into the parenting plan.
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