The end of a marriage will inevitably have both positive and negative impacts. Furthermore, it will also affect the members of a dissolving family differently, meaning that while a change brought about by the divorce might be positive for you, it might be negative for your spouse or your children. However, as with most other situations, time allows you to move on and overcome the negative impact while enjoying the positive effects of the breakup.
Focusing on the positive
While emotional struggles often accompany divorce, you might find that it also provides beneficial changes to your life. Some of these include:
- A way out of a painful and stressful relationship
- A more stable, calmer environment to raise the children
- Control over your life
- Opportunity to develop new interests and meet new people
Dealing with the negative
On the other hand, a divorce will also involve facing challenges. Some of these include:
- Witnessing the effect of the divorce on the children
- Dealing with the financial impact and having to adapt to a new, more affordable lifestyle
- Working through your emotions, which can range from anger to fear to grief
- Losing some of your social circle
- Embarking on a legal process without knowing the outcome
As the divorce process develops, some of the challenges you are facing might turn into benefits. For example, while the financial hit of divorce might be negative at first, over time, as you adapt to your new situation, make plans for your future and figure out how you will support yourself, you also gain independence and might even discover new interests. If one of the major divorce factors was the conflict over finances, the divorce could also bring you freedom from that stress.
Going through a divorce can be tough. However, it can also become an opportunity to learn about yourself and help you become stronger in the future.